I was given a parrot about two years ago. He is a Blue Fronted Amazon, and is now about 36 years old. When I first got him, he was very afraid of coming out of his cage. I would have to open the cage and then put his favourite treats, just out of reach and gradually lure him out in that way. He has become much more confident now, and climbs out as soon as I open the door. However he is still quite nervous about moving into new areas. He also doesn’t know that he can fly. To get him to move from his cage to a table, I have to create a bridge for him to walk across. It also has to be a bridge made of something that he is familiar with – for example, the ladder from his cage. Flying does not even cross his radar. It is not that he doesn’t want to fly, it is that flying does not even occur to him as a possibility. He has in fact flown–his cage was accidentally bumped quite hard and he started losing his balance. He flapped his wings frantically to avoid falling and, by mistake, flew across the room! You could see by his reaction (WTF??) that he thought that some outside agency had flung him across the room! Also clearly he was thinking “Oh crap – how am I going to get back??!!”
I think that I am very like my parrot – in two ways. First is the fear of moving out of my comfort zone – that is pretty obvious, but the second one, that is perhaps less obvious is that there are achievements that I would love – but they seem outside my level of possibility.
I have been studying the work of some great, internationally renowned coaches, and I am awed by the level of transformation work that they achieve with their clients. That is what I aspire to – but what holds me back is the thought “Who am I to do this?”
While studying these coaches, I found that they have had exactly the same thoughts! One of the coaches – Jason Goldberg – said that the way to change this, is to change your language from “who am I” to “I am willing”. So now “I am willing to serve my clients deeply and take them to new levels of transformation.” How powerful is that?
Maybe there is something that you really deeply want, but are denying, because it seems totally outside the level of possibility for you? Maybe you have wings that you haven’t tried to use? Maybe you don’t need to bridge the gap between possible and impossible? Are you willing to try?